Sex on your period? Let’s break the taboo
It’s a topic that still doesn’t get talked about enough, even though it raises a lot of questions. Is it safe? Is it normal to want it, or not want it at all? Are there any benefits? Having sex during your period is still seen as taboo, even though many people think about it or already do it.
The key thing to remember is that everybody is different, and so is every relationship. What matters most is listening to yourself, staying informed, and not feeling guilty if your desires don’t match what society considers "appropriate." There isn’t just one right way to approach intimacy.
Here’s (almost) everything you need to know to make an informed choice, whether you’re curious, unsure, or already comfortable with period sex.
Is it safe to have sex during your period?
Yes, in general, it's perfectly safe to have sex during your period. However, there are a few essential things to know and remember:
Sexually transmitted infections (STIs):
Menstrual blood can contain certain viruses, such as HIV or hepatitis. If there is a risk that one of the partners has an untreated STI, it is best to use a condom to protect each other.
Risk of pregnancy
Although rare, it is possible to get pregnant during your period. Some people have irregular menstrual cycles or shorter menstrual cycles, which makes ovulation more unpredictable. Since sperm can survive for several days in the reproductive tract (between 48 and 72 hours), if pregnancy is not desired, it is recommended to continue using a method of contraception (such as condoms).
Keep in mind that periods are not a "natural protection" against risks: caution is still advised, especially if you are with a new partner.
Libido, pain, and discomfort: What's the deal?
Sex drive can be influenced by the menstrual cycle, just like many other factors in daily life. Some people notice an increase in libido right before or during their period, often due to hormonal fluctuations. Others may feel tired, sensitive, or uncomfortable instead. If you're curious about how sexual desire works, our article can help shed some light.
As for pain, cramps, fatigue, or breast tenderness, all of these can make sex less enjoyable. If that's the case, intimacy should never feel like an obligation. And if the desire is there but something’s getting in the way, there are many ways to adapt. Try gentler positions, take your time, and talk with your partner about how you’re feeling physically and emotionally.
The important thing is to listen to your body and respect its rhythm.
Are there any benefits to having sex during your period?
Yes! Some of them are surprisingly compelling:
- Relief from menstrual cramps: Orgasms release endorphins, hormones that act as natural painkillers. For many, sex relieves menstrual pain.
- Better sleep: Thanks to the relaxation caused by orgasm, some people sleep better after sex.
- Emotional connection: Feeling desired and accepted even during your period can strengthen the bond within a relationship.
- Natural lubrication: Menstrual blood also acts as a lubricant, which can make penetration more comfortable.
The benefits of having sex may vary between people, but they are possible!
How to go about it? Some practical tips
Here are a few tips for a comfortable (and stress-free) experience:
- Protect your sheets: A dark towel or waterproof sheet can prevent mess and allow you to enjoy sex with peace of mind.
- Have wipes or washcloths handy: It's always helpful to have some on hand, for example, in your bedside table, to clean up afterwards.
- Take a shower together: A nice way to share an intimate moment without too much fuss. And why not take the opportunity to experiment a little?
- Choose comfortable positions: Lying down, for example, can help reduce blood flow and alleviate the feeling of pressure.
- Talk openly: A quick chat beforehand can make all the difference. It's important to share this valuable information to ensure a smoother experience and more pleasure!
What if I don't feel like it?
That's 100% valid. Sexuality is not a performance, it's an experience...and certainly not an obligation. There's nothing weird about not wanting to have sex during your period. Some people prefer peace and quiet, rest, or simply being alone.
It's also important to remember that intimacy can take many other forms: cuddling under the covers, masturbating (for more information, read our article on the subject), having a gentle conversation, running your fingers through your partner's hair... There are a thousand and one ways to nurture the connection with yourself or with your partner, for example, by incorporating "slow sex" into your intimate life. This gentle approach can be particularly suitable during menstruation.
Ultimately, sex during menstruation is a matter of personal preference. It is safe in most cases and can even have benefits, but it is not for everyone. The most important thing is to respect your feelings.
Let's talk about it openly. Allow yourself to explore your sexuality, regardless of where you are in your cycle and whatever you feel like doing!
Article written in collaboration with Au lit avec Anne-Marie